#30 Dad Solo Parents + Mom Retreats to Tulum for 6 Days: How We Support Individual Growth in Our Marriage

When you’re raising toddlers, running a business and trying to stay connected as a couple, taking 6 days away to a retreat in the jungle might feel impossible or even selfish -- especially as a mom. But what if stepping away for your own growth actually made your partnership and parenting stronger?

In this episode, we share exactly how we planned for, pivoted and made possible Aman’s recent 6-day trip to a women’s retreat in Tulum, Mexico and what it really took to make it happen. From the prep (wall calendar, Costco run and a homemade advent countdown for our son) to the mindset shifts (on both sides), this is a behind-the-scenes look at how we support each other’s personal growth while parenting two young kids. The lesson: there's no perfect time. 

You’ll hear:

• What we did 2 weeks in advance to reduce stress (and set each other up to thrive)
  
  
• The advent calendar hack that helped our 3-year-old stay connected while Mom was gone
  
  
• The quiet mindset shift Tom used to stay calm and present during solo parenting
  
  
• How we handled the inevitable curveballs (hello, stomach flu and missed workouts)
  
  
• Why your own nourishment and identity outside of parenting matters so much more than people think
  
  

We’re not perfect at this, and the trip back home didn’t go as planned, but we’re learning to build a marriage where both partners grow, dream and thrive. Even (and especially) when it’s messy.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting space … or struggled to get your partner on board for time away, this episode will shift something for you.

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